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5 things you should ask of the celebrant that will officiate at your wedding...
Marriage as set out in the legal part of the wedding ceremony does not speak of love or romance,
of hopes and dreams, of personal conviction or believes.
It is a contract, plain and simple, in which two people agree to adhere to certain terms and conditions as outlined in the law of a particular country.
To bring personality and meaning to transform this legal contract the skills and knowledge of your celebrant are crucial.
No, your celebrant is not necessarily up-to-date with the hottest trends in wedding land or know what the funkiest venue is nor
what the weather will likely be on your big day.
But they are a huge help when it comes to preparing for marriage if you let them because the task of the celebrant that you have chosen entails much, much more than just ‘the legal bit’.
1. TIME: Your celebrant should offer to spent time with you in person or, if distance is an issue, via phone or Skype contact.
Building a personal relationship in which you feel safe enough to deepen your relationship takes time and effort on all sides but
it will be translated in your wedding celebration and, more importantly, your marriage.
2. DETERMINATION: It may sound strange but yes, determination is one of the qualities you might want to ask for in a celebrant.
As you prepare for the marriage that is to follow the wedding, it may be up to the celebrant to help you both dig a little deeper than you might have bargained for.
To ask the difficult questions that you don’t really know the answer to (and that is ok), to gently push your boundaries and not to be too easily satisfied with convenient answers.
3. SACRALITY: Embarking on a journey such as marriage is not a decision people tend to take lightly.
It is a sacred or solemn occasion, and it should be treated like it. Can it be fun? Yes of course. When couples prepare for their ceremony,
I always stress the fact that wedding vows are not a joke. However, I also often advise couples to write their wedding vows with a touch of lightness and humour so they reflect the smaller,
but more personal and equally important aspects of their relationship.
4. CONFIDENTIALITY: In the contact time your celebrant needs to prepare you for marriage, issues will arise or move to the forefront of your consciousness.
You will need to feel safe and secure in the knowledge that your celebrant will not reveal any personal information about you and/or your relationship to a third party.
5. CREATIVITY: Your wedding day is YOUR day. It has taken you a lot of time, effort and money to organize.
The least you can ask of your celebrant that she/he is committed to let you shine through in creating the celebration of this milestone in your life and to help you in preparing yourself for the years to come.
It may be clear that finding the ‘right’ celebrant for your wedding might entail a little bit more than you anticipated.
And yes, a lot of work is needed from you to prepare, but hey...when you put in the effort, you will find that your relationship will benefit and your wedding day will be exquisitely memorable.
Congratulations! You are engaged to be married!
And you want to do it your way...
This means that you want your wedding ceremony reflects your love story, your unique relationship.
You want to choose day, time and place to suit you.
You want have your choice of music and readings, and maybe include your friends and family.
Wedding ceremonies that are legally recognized in ROI
Non-religious wedding ceremonies
Spiritual wedding ceremonies
You can get married (almost) anywhere
On the time and day of your choosing
Including Sundays and bank holidays
Each wedding ceremony is full of individuality and unique content that reflects your relationship and your personal values.
Your ceremony will have a level of personal involvement and creativity that suits you.
Thank you for making our ceremony so special.
We are truly grateful for all the work you have done in the lead up to our wedding and how relaxed and personal the ceremony turned out to be.
Jon and Claire
Rev. Henrica (Marike) Peek is an ordained One Spirit InterFaith Minister.
She also holds a BA in Theology and Spirituality from Fontys College in Tilburg,
The Netherlands and a Post Graduate Certificate in Religious Studies from Trinity Saint David University in Lampeter (Wales).
She was voted Celebrant of the year in 2015 and 2016, and runner up in 2017.
Marike is available for other ceremonies, from baby namings to house blessings to funerals.
Please check the Jayesta-site for further information.
Where do we even begin to start thanking you for the most incredible, warmest and most special of wedding ceremonies. You out-passed any and all hopes we had for our ceremony.
It was so moving, so special and so genuine.
Ruairi and I felt that every word you spoke was imbued with sincerity and love.
Thank you so much.
Eimear and Ruairi